Halloween is not the easiest holiday when recovering from an eating disorder. Fun sized candies are really not what their name suggests.
Just eating one can be a challenge or not being able to stop. The thought of bowls of candy in every room can make one’s hair stand on end.
If the candy wasn’t enough, finding a costume and the self-esteem to wear it can make one want to boycott this holiday altogether.
Want to boycott?
I actually boycotted it for years while in recovery. I knew that the internal pressure I placed on myself to have the perfect costume and the perfect body to match it was counterproductive to my healing.
The first year I didn’t celebrate I felt like the Scrooge of Halloween, but the second year I fully realized that it’s okay to not go out and celebrate!
If Halloween will be triggering there is absolutely no harm in not participating.
Do not feel bad and berate yourself. Congratulate yourself for honoring your needs. It will be there next year and the year after that. It is okay to sit a year out if you know it will help you in recovery.
If you are set on celebrating remember it’s not what you wear, it’s how you wear it! This goes for any day of the year, but can be really helpful on Halloween.
It is easy to get sucked into the compare and despair trap when everyone is walking around in a sexy [fill in the blank] costume.
If you feel comfortable and confident with what you are wearing you will be more focused on having fun, and that is what really matters.
This reminds me of my senior year of high school when my best friend and I decided to go to a party dressed as Wayne and Garth from the movie Wayne’s World. We thought our costumes were hilarious and approached the night with an upbeat and positive mood.
Since we were dressed as two grungy boys we figured not many guys would take interest in us, but we didn’t care, we loved our costumes and wanted to have fun.
As it turned out, a complete shock to us, guys were flirting with us left and right. The two most popular girls in the school were prancing around in leotards looking for similar attention. This story confirms my belief that wearing a costume with confidence will ensure a fun night.
Wayne’s World party time excellent! #MustSeeMovie
And remember this:
Whatever your plans are for today and this weekend, put your recovery first.
There are likely to be challenges that will come up. Face them like a warrior with courage, determination, and honor.
What about you?
Are you staying home or going out this Halloween? If you are, what are you dressing up as? Tell us in the comments below.